The Laws of Attraction. Kind of.

Do you ever look at someone and wonder why you like them? And I don’t mean in a ‘look back and wonder what the hell you were thinking’ kind of way. I mean, stop, look and try to figure out what it is about them that makes your heart do that funny little thing, I don’t think even the world’s greatest writer could truly describe.

I started thinking about this today – ‘what is attraction?’ when I noticed on Whatsapp that two guys I had been seeing had changed their profile pictures. It caught my eye, mainly, because they rarely update their profiles, let alone pick such attractive photos. The thing is though, only one of them made my heart do that ‘thing,’ despite the other one being equally as good looking, if not more in some ways, and a much better suited match… at least on paper.

Why break up when you can just block?

In the last four weeks I have been blocked by two different men. This has been quite an impressive feat for me, considering I’ve never been blocked (knowingly) by anyone in my life. However, it seems nowadays blocking someone is just what we do after a relationship – or in my case one date and someone I spoke to once 18 months ago, ends. Is this just ‘the thing’ now? Have we become so technologically tangled that the only way to truly sever a relationship is with a statement via Whatsapp or social media?

My parents tell me that ‘young people nowadays’ aren’t really living. I think what they mean is we spend so much time in the ‘connected world,’ that we fail to realise that none of this is actually real and that we aren’t really connected at all. Don’t get me wrong, I agree to an extent – but it is for the most part a means to an end and there are many benefits. The disadvantage however is that we crave instant gratification, we crave mindless content, we have been reconditioned to live our lives differently now. But is that really our fault?

With Friends Like These

I get along with guys. Now, I wouldn’t say I get along with all guys, but then again I don’t get along with all girls. I like to think it’s a question of character – does something click, does something spark? Just as I would come to expect the same in my romantic relationships, I search for that indescribable something with my platonic relationships as well.

Male/female relationships however, can often become convoluted. By what? You ask. Well what do you think? Sex. More often than not it is the man who becomes infatuated with the woman. Is this because they always wanted it to develop into something right from the beginning – I don’t know, you tell me. I’m not saying this is always the case, I’m just saying out of most of the guys I know, they wouldn’t mind if it did.